Still on the topic of speaking up and being more assertive, it's February 14th today, which is special because it marks the day the oldest commission on my list of things that are still outstanding was started. To make it even better I haven't heard from the other person since July, so I sent them the following message as soon as I remembered after midnight:
So, would it be appropriate to say "happy anniversary"? Technically it's not been a full year yet, with there being about fifteen hours to go until 4:30pm, but here we are, on February 14th, and I have some things to say. Well, more or less just one.
I try to be understanding of delays and people having other things to do. [deity] only knows I've been bad enough recently, because I've had some personal things to deal with and couldn't bring myself to respond to one person let alone several at a time, but I would still expect to be kept informed of delays and setbacks and such else. Have something come up? Simply say so (and by that I mean "I've had something come up, and need to put your commission(s) on hold for a bit" - nothing specific), and let me know when I can expect to hear back from you. That's all I ask, and I realize I'm equally at fault for not contacting you over the past seven months, but a year? Really?
I would like to get what I paid for in the beginning, even if it requires waiting longer, but because of the wait thus far, I would ask that unless you are literally unable to find anymore at all around where you live, that the second charm, if not the first as well be made on clear plastic.
Thanks in advance.
I feel that's all perfectly reasonable, fair, and professional, and would be quite looking forward to hearing back from the other person if I didn't think it'd be a week to several months before they respond, if that. And of course I still have other pictures and other things purchased that have yet to be completed, but what am I supposed to do? I really don't like getting antsy and fussy over how long things are taking, partially because it's nice to the other person (Pachabel referred to me as "a joy" when I was commissioning pictures for Prized Possession from her), and partially because if I do and they don't respond in a reasonable amount of time, I will get more stressed out for it. One year, however, is unreasonable no matter which way you look at it, and I am fully serious about wanting the things I'm getting from that person to be made on clear plastic to make up for the wait. At first I was going to settle for whatever they could give me just to make it easier on them, but now, well, no. As for other commissions, whenever I feel like it, really. Everybody has their money, so my half of things has been taken care of.
Otherwise though, I think I might end this here and go back to Battle Network 3 until I get tired enough to go to sleep. I might even be able to have the main game beaten by then, as I finished up the last of the WWW areas (before the "point of no return") in the dining room at work earlier, and the timing would be appropriate considering that a new week starts tomorrow, and I just might get the miniSD card that I need for my EZ-Flash. But before I forget again, I also have to send Michele an email to see if she wants me to return yet. As such, I'm off to do that, and just maybe I'll have Alpha beaten before I call it a night~